Good day, Cofee Share peeps! It’s been a minute since I’ve been on here. So much for my goal to post twice a week… I don’t know how people balance work life and social life and writing life and still manage to sleep!
These last few years I’ve been spending a lot of time figuring out this whole autism thing. I mean, living on the spectrum all my life you’d think I’d have it figured out by now, but it’s been only the last few years that I’ve known about it or had the time to really look into what that means.
A lot of my discoveries and worries end up on here, so feel free to peruse if you’re curious… though be warned: I’m exceedingly verbose!
One of the things that comes up regularly is this idea that being autistic makes it hard to have friends… and that’s not entirely my experience. For me, it’s easy to make friends (or I suppose I should say “acquaintances”) because I am a bit of a mimic. People are always telling me “we get along so great!” But, in reality, without even meaning to, I’ve basically just copied everything they’ve done so they identify me as “their kind of people.”
But what am I supposed to do if I don’t like this person whom I’ve now convinced that we’re identical?
Over Lughnasadh, I mentioned that I’ve found a way to balance my “real life” with my “spiritual life” using a Bullet Journal. My “real life” includes all those little tasks that are boring but necessary… like chores and a job, whereas my “spiritual life” is what I used to call all the little things I’m drawn to, including my creativity and my desire to help people.
The last few years, I’ve learned that those “real life” tasks are often in the category of “executive functioning skills,” and that is one of those areas where some people on the spectrum (myself included) struggle.
So what exactly are “Executive Functioning Skills?” And how can a bullet journal help?
Welcome to my favorite time of the year! I’m not quite sure why this holiday is my favorite. I looked back at a few of my previous Lughnasadh posts and it seems that it has a lot to do with what it represents: Lugh the Long-Armed.
And while I do appreciate his story, I don’t know if that’s why I like this time of year so much.
There are oh so many ways to fill in that blank! Communication is key. Communication is imperative. Communication is a lost art form. Communication is complicated. Communication is broken…
When you’re not exactly sure how to communicate between your own mind and heart, and then you have to figure out how to talk to people, it’s probably a little bit of all of those.
For those of you who are part of the writing community on Twitter, first of all, Thank You!! Thank you for all your support that you give one another and being such an amazing example of what we can accomplish when we try to support one another instead of trying to tear each other down!
This past weekend’s #JustAddTea chat was all about celebrations, and while it did include how to use celebration in our works in progress (or WIPs, for those of you in the know), it began by emphasizing our own successes, both big and small.
This is a thing we should all do a little more.
So, things have been busy in my “real” life. Really it’s only because I’ve become somewhat obsessed with my things.
If you don’t know what I’m talking about, you’ve missed a post or two…
It’s also been a week or so since I’ve posted an update! There is a reason, and I’ll get to it later, but for now, just know that I think things are going well. Continue reading “Boy Update: A state of near panic”