Posted in Dating

Why do we divide ourselves? (Part 1)

Occasionally I’ll see something in the news (or, more likely, on Facebook) that makes me particularly introspective. This one in particular also hearkens back to the issues I had with the last guy and the handful of men of a similar ethnic background.

I hate even making that distinction.

I’ve spoken before about how being raised in a family of a different ethnic make-up than my own has given me a particularly different view of the world: I don’t “see” color. I’m told that just saying such a thing is somehow racist because I’m denying the intricacies of a person’s heritage by not acknowledging their race. Or I’m told that people who say that, generally don’t mean it, and yet I do (again, the reason why I hate that I feel the need to make the distinction about several guys of similar ethnic backgrounds and an issue that seems to come from that).

I suppose it would be better to say that I try not to have preconceived notions of a person’s character based on their race, because to me it doesn’t matter where they’re coming from, but where they are and where they’re going and if (at least when thinking about potentially dating them) I want to join them on their journey or have them join mine.

Continue reading “Why do we divide ourselves? (Part 1)”

Posted in Releasing Steam, Uncategorized

Bieber grew up?

I’ve never paid much attention to Justin Bieber, other than to point and giggle when I saw some teenage girl doodle his name on her paper. Never to the girl’s face, of course, but Justin Bieber is not someone I would ever think of as being sexy…

Still don’t, so don’t go thinking this is a post about his hotness or anything like that.  Continue reading “Bieber grew up?”

Posted in Just me, Releasing Steam

Is “Gentrification” a race issue?

The issue of race relations is one I find both particularly fascinating (watching people of different races interact) and disturbing (the way people make race a bigger issue than it has to be). Maybe it’s because I’m racially ambiguous (most people don’t know what I am), but I don’t understand why the color of a person’s skin determines how a person should be treated, or how they should treat other people. I am not white, but I grew up in a white household, so perhaps it changes the way I view the world, however, it is such a thing that people from other countries have commented on how our view of race is part of what defines us as a nation!

I still think that is just NOT right. I mean, look at Jamaica:


But it goes further than our need to define each other by color. We, as a country, have this long standing bitterness towards people of colors other than our own. Many of the African American people that I know will casually remark how they are being mistreated because they are black, even if there are people of other colors with them. It’s as if they are still harboring anger from slavery, which hasn’t been a thing for a very very long time!

I like how Chris Rock explains it. I don’t know how old this clip is, but it’s stuck with me for quite a while now… years probably, but it is still relevant, and it makes a fairly important point, I think. Even though I know that all the Native Americans aren’t dead (I’m still kicking, for one), you don’t hear the Native Americans complaining about race as much. Unfortunately, as he points out, there aren’t that many of us left, but I don’t think that is the main reason why you don’t hear that much from the tribal peoples. I’d like to think it’s because we realize how silly being judged on the color of your skin is.

I could do a whole post on Native American ideas, and I may sometime in the future, but for today, I want to get back to this idea of racism… specifically this whole idea of gentrification (which I don’t actually think is a race issue, but I’ve been told otherwise). Continue reading “Is “Gentrification” a race issue?”