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Weekend Coffee Share: Kissing is not Eating

Hello to all my Coffee Share peeps! If we were sharing our lives over caffeinated beverages, mine would be, you guessed it, tea, and we’d be at the local IHOP. I’ve been craving a hamburger for a few days, which doesn’t go with my diet… but I know the IHOP will customize it for me the way I like, and that’s the whole reason why Weight Watchers does the extra “cheat” points.

So a burger it is!

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Not Jumping To Conclusions

At the end of the last post, I was convinced that Mr. Nice Guy was one of those people that would totally use me and toss me aside, and that he had done something to that very effect. To combat the feelings of self disgust that that (irrationally) caused, I started talking to a new guy: The Investment Broker. He and I had made plans to meet on Sunday, and he’d surpassed my conversation test by keeping my attention in a phone conversation for over an hour.

But thus far it has not meant to be for me to meet him.

What’s more, I don’t feel particularly bad about it.

And to make things more interesting, I had a third date with Mr. Nice Guy. Continue reading “Not Jumping To Conclusions”

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Some of my favorite things!

Tonight is the night before a new school year, so I’ll be keeping this brief. There have been a lot of new things going on in my life lately, and so I wanted to share them with you, especially because one of the new things might actually affect you, my internet friends!

I started a new, separate blog for my teacher stuff: T is for Teacher. The old stuff can still be found here: Tea(ching) with Children, but I thought it was time to separate my work stuff from my more personal (and somewhat NSFW) material. With all the talk of dating, and potentially sexy talk, I didn’t think my teacher stuff should be linked here. 

I also am aware that some people only follow certain aspects of my blog, so now my teacher friends/followers don’t have to sit through days and days of dating diatribe, but can sit back and relax while they read about the shenanigans at my school (or the solutions to said shenanigans). 

So that is the first of my favorite things: freedom to be myself. Now I can talk a little bit more freely about my life, without the concern that it will somehow taint how people view me as a teacher. Those two parts of my “self” are separate now. Well, at least online. 

Another of my favorite things is this new guy in my life. He is, to use an outdated term, kinda dreamy. And I mean that with multiple connotations. He is a dreamer. He makes me dream about the future. He is dreamy in appearance… I could probably go on, but I don’t want to become one of those girls who gush about a guy. Especially since in the past when I’ve done so, it didn’t work out so well…

But I will give you a few of the details, albeit, probably not the more sordid details. 

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The New Best Pickup Line

If you’ve been keeping up with this blog at all (even through the random bouts of emptiness, which I do apologize for), then you know that I have a habit of reopening one closed door in particular, but I think I’ve finally learned to keep it shut, and I’ve seen a door that has opened. And it opened with an amazing pickup line!

Having met at a movie event, this new guy and I have hung out a few times. Never anything formal, or precisely date-like, although on 2 occasions, even though there were supposed to be other people, it ended up being just us. And on the last such occasion, he dropped the world’s best pickup line:

“I’m not going to lie; I was going to try to sleep with you tonight, but now I’m not. You’re someone I can talk to, so I want to do this right and be a gentleman.”

This line works for so very many reasons! 

First of all, it shows confidence. Here’s a guy who doesn’t really know where he stands with me, as we’ve only hung out casually, in a friendly setting, but he was confident enough to think he stood a chance of sleeping with me, and was confident enough to go so far as to say so. And he didn’t hesitate when he said it. Instead he looked me straight in the eyes and said it. That’s a great deal of chutzpah! 

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I am a fan of kissing.

It’s true. Kissing is a particularly important part of the dating experience. A bad kiss can kill the mood faster than an image of Margaret Thatcher playing baseball in her undies. Meanwhile, a good kiss can lead to blast off in less than 2.5 seconds.

i'm a fan of kissingThere’s just something particularly sensual about the feel of someone else’s lips on my flesh. The brush of lips against my fingertips, or a light nibble on the collarbone can send shivers down my spine. A kiss on the top of the head signifies a deep caring that’s beyond sex and can fill me with a warmth and a sense of belonging. Kissing of the eyelids can mean “I see you,” or can be a way to wipe away someone’s sadness. Kisses can be used to tease, with a light flick of the tongue on someone else’s lip, or by kissing only one lip. Or there are the kisses that leave a trail of love lingering, tingling and lusty across someone’s body…

Kissing is important. Continue reading “I am a fan of kissing.”