This week, if we were talking over coffee, I’d tell you that nostalgia has been a major theme in my life of late. Well… if I’m honest, I’ve been going through a great deal of retrospection since the Pirate and I parted ways. Not out of any regret for the way things ended with the Pirate (though it isn’t the way I would have wanted it), but because I was blinded by exactly how many similarities there were with that situation and some of the ones from the past.
Most notably the Boy, but, as we’ve already discussed, it’s the differences in that situation that made the biggest difference to me.
I also feel that I’ve made progress as a human being simply because I was able to walk away with half the self-conflict than I felt during the situation with the Boy.
I suppose it’s that progress, along with the other personal struggles going on right now that have me feeling so nostalgic.
Continue reading Weekend Coffee Share: Old Times, Hard Times
This one’s going to be short. I’m trying to grade papers so I won’t be stuck at the school until time for our #JustAddTea chat to start tonight. It’s not going so well, but I’m getting there.
Tonight, we’re going to talk about friendship. It’a thing acutely on my mind of late for a couple of reasons, and if you haven’t figured it out by now, I kind of choose the weekly topics based on things that I actually need some advice on. Or, things that seem fun.
This week has a lot of things going on in my life that have left me emotionally bouncing between feeling super lonely and feeling super loved. That pendulum on top of just trying to get everything done for the end of the year has me feeling super stressed and permanently exhausted! This teacher is tired… Continue reading Tonight on #JustAddTea: Friendship!
Often in the business world, and even in books about how to be successful in the business world, like Lean In, they often talk about having a mentor. In education, beginning teachers are paired with a mentor teacher who can show them all the things that you aren’t taught in education classes. Sometimes, moving to a new school will get you a mentor teacher as well.
I was given one when I moved to my new district.
But what is the purpose of a mentor? Are they really necessary? How do you find one? And do they work in all fields? What about if you’re an author? Continue reading Mentors Make a Difference
Last post I began to discuss some of the ways I analyze life. I got sidetracked by yet another fight with the Boy, but it may finally be the one that ended all the others.
Because I analyze and see patterns, it is very obvious to me WHY we fight, but it hasn’t been obvious to me how we stop it. If you ask him, I think he’d say that he has no idea why we fight, but to stop it, we both have to forget the past.
Well, we just passed the third Christmas since we’ve known each other, and while that’s not an astronomical amount of time, there’s been a lot of bad that has happened in that time. Sometimes it overshadows the good by a lot, but some of the good was so good that it’s easy to see why we hold on. Or at least why I do.
I still don’t understand why he “keeps showing up,” as he says. He says it’s because I’m important and that I just have to take his word that he means that, but the reason we fight is that while he’s saying that with his mouth, his actions don’t always match.
They never have.
This last fight, I think he finally, FINALLY saw why I keep saying that. Finally!
Continue reading Progress for 2016
My last post, I spoke about keeping my dating world in perspective, but I ended talking about the Boy (I really feel like I should find a new nickname for him since he has expressed immense displeasure with that nickname…Hmmm… I’ll think on it). Seems he usually ends up being a part of things on here, and so I’ve been thinking about why that is exactly.
What is it about him that makes me fixate on him so much? And why is it so important that he be in my life?
And what does that mean for the other people in my life?
Continue reading Perspective: the Friend Edition