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Thursday Thoughts: What if you don’t like someone?

These last few years I’ve been spending a lot of time figuring out this whole autism thing. I mean, living on the spectrum all my life you’d think I’d have it figured out by now, but it’s been only the last few years that I’ve known about it or had the time to really look into what that means.

A lot of my discoveries and worries end up on here, so feel free to peruse if you’re curious… though be warned: I’m exceedingly verbose!

One of the things that comes up regularly is this idea that being autistic makes it hard to have friends… and that’s not entirely my experience. For me, it’s easy to make friends (or I suppose I should say “acquaintances”) because I am a bit of a mimic. People are always telling me “we get along so great!” But, in reality, without even meaning to, I’ve basically just copied everything they’ve done so they identify me as “their kind of people.”

But what am I supposed to do if I don’t like this person whom I’ve now convinced that we’re identical?

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Boy Update: Communication is _______.

There are oh so many ways to fill in that blank! Communication is key. Communication is imperative. Communication is a lost art form. Communication is complicated. Communication is broken…

When you’re not exactly sure how to communicate between your own mind and heart, and then you have to figure out how to talk to people, it’s probably a little bit of all of those.

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Boy Update: A state of near panic

So, things have been busy in my “real” life. Really it’s only because I’ve become somewhat obsessed with my things.

If you don’t know what I’m talking about, you’ve missed a post or two…

It’s also been a week or so since I’ve posted an update! There is a reason, and I’ll get to it later, but for now, just know that I think things are going well.  Continue reading “Boy Update: A state of near panic”

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Weekend Coffee Share: Kissing is not Eating

Hello to all my Coffee Share peeps! If we were sharing our lives over caffeinated beverages, mine would be, you guessed it, tea, and we’d be at the local IHOP. I’ve been craving a hamburger for a few days, which doesn’t go with my diet… but I know the IHOP will customize it for me the way I like, and that’s the whole reason why Weight Watchers does the extra “cheat” points.

So a burger it is!

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Is being yourself part of flirting?

Seems that since my summer has ended (so, since Thursday) the world has turned topsy turvy. I don’t know what is going on with the Alt-Right/Neo-Nazi/KKK stuff, or with North Korea. I don’t understand it. I have been too busy and too tired to pay much attention to it. I know it’s important, but I can’t wrap my brain around it all right now.

Instead, I want to explain my epiphany I had about my dating life as it relates to my Aspie-ness. It really blew my mind.

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Weekend Coffee Share: Two for One

This weekend, if we were discussing our lives over caffeinated beverages, we’d be again at the Panera Bread near my house. It’s tax free weekend here, which (for those of you not in Texas or various other states in the United States) is basically a shopping holiday. It’s like Black Friday, but there’s no sales tax on clothes and school supplies. I was supposed to be shopping, but instead I got my nails done and am now enjoying a delicious Caesar salad with Chicken while I compose my actual shopping lists.

I’ll venture out tomorrow… if I have time.

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