Happy Leap Day, ladies and gentlemen! Today is an extra day of sorts. Scientifically speaking, since there is actually just slightly more than 24 hours in a day, every four years that extra time adds up to create an extra day. Hence Leap Year, and days like today: Leap days.
Historically, there are some interesting things that happen on this day. My favorite being the tradition of women proposing to their men on this day. They made a movie about it, and it’s one of my favorite Romance movies… which if you’ve followed along on this blog for any time at all, you’ll realize I’m not always that into. I’m very picky about my romantic movies and books and things. Possibly because of the Asperger’s, or maybe I’m just as picky about my literature and film as I try to be about the men in my life.
Either way, I like this movie, and it’s a good way to begin a post about the changes that are about to happen on this blog.
I love this movie because while it sticks to the formula of a Rom-Com, our heroine is the one making the decisions. Does she need to be rescued? Yeah, a couple of times, but in the end, she is the one who holds the cards. It’s set up that way because of the tradition of women proposing on Leap Year. It allows for a strong female character and a nice little twist on tradition.
And we’re about to have some twisting of our own here on Just Add Tea.
This blog has undergone quite the change since I started it nearly 4 years ago. It started out as a place for a progressive teacher, stuck out in the sticks, to vent and just share her ideas, and has transformed into a place where I can discuss my dating adventures while hopefully dispencing some much needed advice. At the center of it, though, the majority of the posts have dealt with relationships. Even the Creative Writing posts have somehow related to relationships, because relationships, romance, and love are at the center of our existence as human beings.
We were not designed to be solitary creatures.
I love teaching the poem that quote comes from. The vocabulary is intense for high school students, but the message is such a great one, and it is at the core of my personal beliefs. The idea that we are all interconnected as a species and that our goal is to help one another and love one another has been one of the reasons I started offering advice on this blog. It’s the reason I get so adamant about my opinions because I think we spend too much time being negative. Too much time separating ourselves from each other.
And I think the best way for us to see how life should be is through literature and film.
Yes, it’s an odd segue, but follow me on this one, will you please?
If you’ve been keeping up at all on this blog, you know that I’ve been writing a book. It started as a NaNoWriMo piece, way back in November, and while I walk away and come back to it every now and then, it’s picking up speed and has a nice little following. I had intended for it to be a simple urban fantasy story, but as the men in my life keep influencing bits of the story, it has definitely morphed into more of a romance story than anything else.
Paranormal romance at that.
Paranormal Romance, for those of you not in the know, is a story about love usually between a normal every day human being and something else, like vampires, werewolves, witches. Twilight is a paranormal romance. Almost anything by Anne Rice has elements of paranormal romance in it.
But, while I do have a nice little group of people following the story on Tablo (and on Scriggler now,too), I’ve never written romance before, paranormal or otherwise. I know what turns me on, I’ve read romance before, but this is a first for me.
I’d like to know what it is that makes for a good romance story, again, paranormal or otherwise.
So for the month of March, while the rest of the world is all aflutter about Steak and Blowjob day (the guy’s payback for a good Valentine’s Day…that has it’s own WEBSITE), we’re going to be looking in depth at what makes for good romance and erotica.
Besides, the Bartender has no need of a specific day, although a steak would be nice…
I have a handful of guest bloggers and some Romance authors who will be discussing with us their opinions, and of course I’ll have plenty to say. I’ve always said my views on romance were a bit… different. After all, I like the idea of the more standard gender roles, and yet I like a strong female character. I like that place where strong women meet strong men and they struggle for control. And I like for the man to win… in a respectful not rapey kind of way.
But how does that translate into a Romance novel? And what does that say about me as a person? Or does it say anything at all?
But we’re gonna find out next month!
If you’ve got something you’d just love to share, leave me a message in the comments, or hit me up on Twitter. There’s a space on the left side of the screen for that.
I hope you follow along with us as we delve deeper and deeper into the mysteries of Romance/Erotica novels!