In case I haven’t mentioned it, or in case you weren’t paying attention when I did mention it, it’s Spring Break… albeit we’re coming to the end of the break, which is a bit sad for me as I haven’t done anything productive for my real job. What I have done is watch an abundance of television, particularly Doctor Who and, you guessed it, Star Trek (specifically the Next Generation). I’m finding that I’m being inspired by the alien races encountered on these two shows. Most notably the Klingon women!
Klingon women are open about their sexuality. There is no fear or doubt. If they want to mate with a man, they are very open about it! And what’s more, the Klingon men wouldn’t have it any other way.
In an episode of Star Trek: The Next Generation, where Commander Riker becomes a member of a Klingon crew, at dinner, one of the Klingon females makes a statement that tells us just exactly what she wants. Let’s set the scene: Commander William Riker (played by Jonathan Frakes) is eating with a group of Klingons. They’ve teased him mercilessly, but he’s given as good as he gets in order to show he isn’t weak. Towards the end of the scene, one of the women says she “will have him,” and then again says that she “may come back for [him].” Riker has to ask (wide-eyed) if she’s serious. End scene amidst throngs of laughter from the Klingon males.
Maybe I should have been a Klingon.
I’ve mentioned it before that I feel like the communication between men and women is strange–strained even. There’s this belief that a woman should be the object pursued instead of the pursuer. Or at least that’s the way it was prior to the woman’s power movement of the 80’s, with the huge shoulder pads and women really entering the boardroom as more than secretaries.
Women became powerful, but the relationship sector didn’t get the memo.
So when I tell a guy who is particularly macho that I want a kiss, he doesn’t know how to react. Or if I like the way a guy makes me feel, and I try to initiate some more time together, he gets all weird about it and acts like I’m asking for a ring.
Liking what you do to me is not the same as wanting to keep you on a leash forever, gentlemen.
Believe it or not, not all women are looking for the happily ever after, with the white wedding and the house with the picket fence and the 2.5 kids. That’s an old, outdated way of looking at things.
Some women are just looking for a guy who knows how to use his parts, and likes to use them frequently…with her.
And there’s nothing wrong with that scenario, except that for some reason, a sexually liberated, outspoken female is considered some sort of trickster.
“Yeah she likes the sex now, but keep her around too long, and next thing you know you’ll be married, bro.”
That’s not really how it works for every woman.
Don’t get me wrong, there are some girls out there that that’s what they are looking for. There are even some girls who are willing to put out with just that in mind. And then there are those who like to have fun while they find the guy who will keep them happy forever. You know, those girls that haven’t confused sex with love.
Like a Klingon female.
Klingon women embrace their sexuality. They flaunt their, umm, assets with pride–just look at their uniforms! The Klingon female uniforms show off their breasts, and are form fitting to show off the strength and shape of their body.
It’s functional, but still expresses their femininity. Their femininity and sexuality aren’t considered a hindrance. A strong Klingon woman in power isn’t called a bitch, she’s honored for being hard core enough to get where she is, like any other Klingon in power.
This outfit wouldn’t be taken seriously anywhere in the business world. And we all know that those women who wear the form fitting suits with the above the knee skirts are considered slutty. The rumors go that they use their bodies to get ahead in their career, even if that isn’t really the case. What if they are very intelligent and just happen to be proud of their bodies, too? Who would want to spend all those hours in the gym not to show off their body?
Nobody questions men’s fashion choices, unless it’s a matter of too casual for the job. In recent years this very issue has been brought up on the red carpet. People ask actresses about who they’re wearing instead of the more important questions about their acting. Why can’t it be both?
We’ve swung to the opposite extreme, I think, where women are almost chastised for trying to look good. You can’t be a feminist and wear make-up, are you crazy? And don’t you dare try to show off your breasts! Unless you’re famous.
Speaking of breasts…
In the episode in question, one of the male Klingon officers asks Riker if the food was to his liking, because if it was too intense, maybe one of the females could breast feed him…
Can you imagine this conversation happening anywhere on Earth? There’d be a sexual harassment suit in the works so fast that no one would even be able to finish their meal. But the Klingon women laughed.
Not only did they laugh, but they made sexy, googly eyes at him, as they tried to decide if such a thing would be pleasurable or not.
And cue the second sexual harassment suit…
So it’s not a perfect system, but man it sure would be nice to be able to be myself in a dating situation without being afraid that I’ll either be labeled a slut or a walking trap.